Go gently

These prompts are for you, not drafts of messages to send. Skip any that feel like too much today. If you're thinking about harming yourself or you're in danger, contact local emergency services or a crisis line now. In the US, call or text 988.

Prompts for the first days

  • Describe how you spent today, hour by hour, without judging any of it.
  • Say what you're feeling right now in a few words, and say it again if it changes.
  • Talk about who you've told and how each of them responded.
  • Say what you've eaten today and when you last went outside.
  • Talk about the moment it felt most real.

Prompts for making sense of it

  • Tell the story of the relationship in five scenes, from the first to the last.
  • Talk about what was good, without arguing with yourself about it.
  • Describe a pattern you noticed in the relationship, on both sides.
  • Say what you'd want a friend to understand if they'd only heard one side.
  • Talk about what you needed and didn't get, and what you gave that went unnoticed.
  • Describe the moment you first sensed something was wrong, if there was one.

Prompts for the urge to reach out

  • Say the message you want to send them, then talk about what you hope it would do.
  • Talk about what you'd expect to happen in the hour after you sent it.
  • Describe what you'd tell a friend in your place who wanted to send that message.
  • Name someone else you could call instead and what you'd talk about.

Prompts for finding your way back

  • Describe something you set aside during the relationship that you could pick up again.
  • Talk about a friend you'd like to see more of now.
  • Say what a good ordinary Saturday would look like for you on your own.
  • Describe a place in town that's yours, not ours.
  • Talk about what you'd want from a relationship next time, when you're ready.
  • Describe one thing you're proud of in how you've handled this.

How to use these prompts

Talk for a minute or two, once a day or whenever the urge to text them shows up. Some people find it helps just to have somewhere to put the words. If hearing your own voice later would sting, keep only the words. In Dawn Light, turn off Keep recordings in Settings for that, and turn on Lock with Face ID to keep the journal private.

Questions about breakup journaling

How long should I journal after a breakup?

As long as it's useful. Many people talk most days at first and less as things settle. If every entry reopens the same hurt, move to the prompts about finding your way back.

Should I read my breakup entries later?

When you're ready. Reading back months later can show how much has changed, which is easy to miss from day to day.

What if I can't stop thinking about them?

That's common after a breakup. Talking with a friend, a family member or a counselor can help. If you're thinking about harming yourself or you're in danger, contact local emergency services or a crisis line now. In the US, call or text 988.

Somewhere to put the words

Say what you can't say to them. Dawn Light keeps it private on your iPhone, with no account, an optional Face ID lock and nothing sent to a server.

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